tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2759913671101666257.post1711534566151288097..comments2023-05-24T06:02:06.480-05:00Comments on Chuck's Chatter: Thoughts after OrlandoChuck Doswellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03099345055614900157noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2759913671101666257.post-12684228078539480442016-06-16T11:18:00.841-05:002016-06-16T11:18:00.841-05:00Just one last thought on that "self outing&qu...Just one last thought on that "self outing" event in 2000. The one major change that it effectuated in me is that from that moment on I didn't give a hoot who knew I was gay and what they thought about it. I also don't advertise it constantly because it's as a part of my identity as everyone else's sexuality is a part of theirs. It's neither good nor bad, it just "is". There were many others on that group for which this incident was a turning point in their dealing with the notion of gay people among them. So, this was all good, strangely enough. <br /><br />For the several others that I suspect gave Chuck the most grief, their sanctimony and self-righteous behavior continues to this day. That doesn't matter, since most of the world has gone on without them except, sadly, people like Omar Mateen.John Monteverdihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08699773137514930858noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2759913671101666257.post-41522181992769801702016-06-16T10:15:56.939-05:002016-06-16T10:15:56.939-05:00Brian - Wow! A blast from the past ... yes, of co...Brian - Wow! A blast from the past ... yes, of course. You can email me or find me on Facebook. I've thought of you often over the years and it's great to hear from you again.<br /><br />John - I didn't want to mention your name without your permission, but it's obvious that that incident was a life-changing event, and we did indeed come out of it stronger and (for my part) awakened to the reality of homophobia.<br />Chuck Doswellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03099345055614900157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2759913671101666257.post-25824849603687037842016-06-16T06:33:14.100-05:002016-06-16T06:33:14.100-05:00Good blog, Dr. Doswell something told me to check ...Good blog, Dr. Doswell something told me to check your site today, t's been a long time since we were the fodder of the machine. 46yrs? I would like to reconnect, if you chose. Brian R Weatherholtbrian weatherholtnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2759913671101666257.post-75192495866713402782016-06-15T23:11:58.251-05:002016-06-15T23:11:58.251-05:00Hear, hear.
And, I want to publicly acknowledg...Hear, hear. <br /><br />And, I want to publicly acknowledge Chuck as being there for me when the "outing" he described occurred. In fact, though accidental, it was a spectacular "self-outing" on my part via an email that was mistakenly sent to the wrong person, but ended up being sent to a group of professionals. It was a trying time for me, but it was even more of a trying time for Chuck and Vickie. I pretty much could guess who the individuals were that wanted me castigated, or thrown off the group, or repudiated. And I know that these people were important to Chuck too. I was mortified by putting him through this.<br /><br />But we all came out of this stronger, and our friendship is stronger. And we all realize that this was a life changing event upon which we three (me, Chuck, and Vickie) and others in the group who stepped up (I don't want to name them here, but they know who they are). As for the others, they still maintain their stance on homosexuality and gay people. Not much we can do about that.<br /><br />So thank you Chuck. You are a dear friend. <br /><br />John MonteverdiJohn Monteverdihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08699773137514930858noreply@blogger.com